September 30, 2024

Is love enough to sustain a relationship? It can certainly provide a powerful bond to keep partners together, but is that sufficient to maintain that connection when other issues arise (e.g., day-to-day life challenges, disagreements and disconnects about fundamental goals and aspirations, cohabitation conflicts, a growing lack of sexual intimacy, etc.)? These matters often come to a head when certain turning points in life are reached, such as r… read the rest.

Is love enough to sustain a relationship? It can certainly provide a powerful bond to keep partners together, but is that sufficient to maintain that connection when other issues arise (e.g., day-to-day life challenges, disagreements and disconnects about fundamental goals and aspirations, cohabitation conflicts, a growing lack of sexual intimacy, etc.)? These matters often come to a head when certain turning points in life are reached, such as retirement, especially when each partner holds different views about what that next stage of life is supposed to be all about. These are among the challenges faced by Henri (Olivier Gourmet), a recently retired Brussels policeman, and his longtime partner, Thom (Dave Johns), a former drag queen and seller of secondhand merchandise who now spends most of his time as a househusband. Thom has been looking forward to this new phase in the couple’s lives, but Henri has been pulling away, seeking to follow a more individualized path, one that even includes encounters with other men (a practice he doesn’t try to hide, either). Needless to say, Thom is heartbroken and tries to reingratiate himself into his husband’s life but to no avail, an outcome that turns their relationship bitterly (though often hilariously) contentious. So what does the future hold for this long-term duo? It looks like divorce is certainly not out of the question. But is that what they really want? These are questions insightfully, honestly and sensitively explored in writer-director David Lambert’s fourth feature effort, a bittersweet romantic comedy-drama about what can happen when “things change.” It thoughtfully examines the soul searching and reevaluations that come with retirement, much the same way as in the Swiss comedy-drama “Golden Years” (“Die goldenen Jahre”) (2022), as well as the open hostility that can emerge between partners, as depicted in the dark comedy classic “The War of the Roses” (1989). The picture’s meticulously assembled, well-paced screenplay effectively examines all angles of this scenario through a narrative that’s touching, wickedly funny, heartbreaking and heartwarming all at the same time. This is backed by the superb performances of the film’s two leads, as well as the heart-tugging presence of an adorable police dog named Sherlock, who plays an integral role in how this story unfolds. This release is handily the best offering I screened at this year’s Reeling Film Festival (if not in all of the years I’ve been attending the event), as well as one of the best movies I’ve ever watched about relationship discord, regardless of sexual orientation. As the old song “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do” so astutely observes, the film definitely follows suit when it comes to that sentiment and does so with an eloquence and realism rarely seen on screen. Couples of all kinds faced with issues like these should give this one a look, as it will ultimately probably provide more hands-on insight into how to address their problems than any course of marriage counseling could ever do. Like the creatures cited in the film’s title, “Turtles” draws attention to the issues often encountered in these circumstances – and candidly shows that partners can’t afford to avoid confronting them by simply hiding in their shells.

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